Having “The Talk” With Your Kids

My two oldest kids are 9 and 7. I have never shied away from talking about body parts, proper names, puberty – but I have never really had “the talk” with either of my children.

I don’t think it’s that I am embarrassed – it’s natural – but I have never really known how to start, where to start, what to say, etc.

I have seen (and purchased) books that you just give to the child and let them read, but I feel like that puts an awkward space between parent and child.

I know for me personally, I learned sexual education at school – it was not a home topic.

As a parent now, I want my children and I to be open on the topic. I would hate for them to feel embarrassed or ashamed to talk to me about their bodies, sex, relationships, etc.

For that reason, I was open to reading (and highly recommend) 30 Days of Sex Talks.

Having “The Talk” With Your Kids”

30 Days of Sex Talks for Ages 3-7: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy (Volume 1)

The most meaningful discussions you will have with your child—made easy! This book contains downloadable, bonus content! Included with this book is a code that will allow you to download topic cards which can be printed and placed in strategic locations, such as a mirror, refrigerator or in your pocket, to remind you and your child to start talking! We’ve made it easy to engage your child in conversations about relationships, affection, anatomy, boundaries, predators, online dangers and many other vital topics. Using the numerous questions and conversation starters we have provided, you can launch these essential talks with your child and interject your personal thoughts, feelings and cultural beliefs. Written by parents and reviewed by professionals, the 30 Days of Sex Talks program makes it simple for you and your child to talk about sex in the context in which it belongs; as part of a healthy relationship that also includes joy, laughter and the full range of emotion that defines human intimacy. Remember that having these talks with your child will establish a pattern of healthy conversations for the future. Your goal is that your child will feel comfortable talking to you about anything as he or she grows into the healthy, knowledgeable person he or she will become.

30 Days of Sex Talks for Ages 8-11: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy (Volume 2)

The most meaningful discussions you will have with your child—made easy! This book contains downloadable, bonus content! Included with this book is a code that will allow you to download topic cards which can be printed and placed in strategic locations, such as a mirror, refrigerator or in your pocket, to remind you and your child to start talking! Written by parents and reviewed by professionals, the 30 Days of Sex Talks program makes it simple for you to discuss love, sex, changing bodies, as well as address dangerous messages from the media and various online sources. This book contains 30 topics for discussion including: puberty, curiosity, self-worth, and intimate relationships. These topics can be used to start important dialogue with your child while allowing you to interject your feelings, thoughts, and cultural beliefs. You and your child can talk about sex in the context in which it belongs; as part of a healthy relationship that also includes joy, laughter and the full range of emotion that defines human intimacy. Between the ages of eight and 11, children become much more aware of their bodies. Knowledge about how the human body works and how the body changes can empower your child! Remember that having these talks with your child will establish a pattern of healthy conversations for the future. Your goal is that your child will feel comfortable talking to you about anything as he or she grows into the healthy, knowledgeable person he or she will become.

30 Days of Sex Talks for Ages 12+: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy (Volume 3)

The most meaningful discussions you will have with your teen—made easy! This book contains downloadable, bonus content! Included with this book is a code that will allow you to download topic cards which can be printed and placed in strategic locations, such as a mirror, refrigerator or in your pocket, to remind you and your child to start talking! Written by parents and reviewed by professionals, 30 Days of Sex Talks makes it simple for you to discuss sex in the context in which it belongs; as part of a healthy relationship that also includes joy, laughter and the full range of emotion that defines human intimacy. This book includes topics like creating healthy relationships, consent, social media, pornography exposure and emotional intimacy. Each topic has bullet points and numerous questions to act as conversation starters. These will facilitate vital talks while allowing you to express your own thoughts, feelings and cultural beliefs. Teenagers generally have more mature and complicated concerns about love, sex, and relationships and how they fit together. This book is meant to help you approach these subjects and create meaningful dialogue about them. All of these topics have been thoroughly researched and will initiate an ongoing, layered dialogue that will continue into the future. As you progress through these talks, your relationship with your child will be strengthened and you will be able to discuss anything that follows as your teen grows into a healthy, knowledgeable adult.

Each book is broken down by topic – “Amazing Bodies”, “Male Anatomy”, “Female Anatomy”, etc. – and then has a blurb on how to start the conversation, sample activity, sample dialogue, additional questions to consider, etc.

The books are separated into 3 different age categories which is helpful to be age appropriate with your child and to use language and examples appropriate to your child.

One of my favorite things is that the end of each book as a glossary with terms and definitions. As a parent and a professional who has worked with sex offenders, I believe it’s important to teach our children proper names for their own safety and benefit.

I really like that the books make each topic a little bit more comfortable for the parents and give the parents a roadway into the conversation.

No doubt that having ‘the talk’ can be awkward, but with an educational resource such as 30 Days of Sex Talks, it helps make it a little easier for all parties involved.

I will definitely be referring to this set when parents ask for resources. I think it’s a great resource and benefit to families needing to have ‘the talk’.